What unmanaged emotional patterns are, how they form, the signs you're living inside one, and how to begin working with them, gently.
A quiet guide to books that help when the mind will not slow down, including The Why We Do That Series by Karmin Fouché.
Empathy books are often written for children. These are written for adults who want to understand themselves and other people more accurately.
On the difference between saying sorry and letting the other person feel it. A short piece about repair as an act of attention.
A short introduction to the question behind The Why We Do That Series, and where to start if you are trying to understand your own patterns.
There is tired that sleep can fix and tired that cannot. This is about the second one, and about asking a fuller question.
On the question most of us ask quietly, and the books that meet it with curiosity instead of a quick fix.
A note on the particular tenderness available to people who owe each other nothing.
Why we practise conversations that will never happen, and what it might be doing for us anyway.
On the truth that arrives before the conversation, the explanation or the plan.
On the older versions of us that return in familiar rooms, often before we know they have arrived.
The quiet labour inside being low-maintenance, agreeable and simple to have around.
The guilt that arrives after a fair boundary, and the urge to repair a problem that may not exist.
Why a late reply, changed plan or misplaced object can carry far more than the moment seems to contain.