On the difference between saying sorry and letting the other person feel it. A short piece about repair as an act of attention.
There is tired that sleep can fix and tired that cannot. This is about the second one, and about asking a fuller question.
A note on the particular tenderness available to people who owe each other nothing.
Why we practise conversations that will never happen, and what it might be doing for us anyway.
On the truth that arrives before the conversation, the explanation or the plan.
On the older versions of us that return in familiar rooms, often before we know they have arrived.
The quiet labour inside being low-maintenance, agreeable and simple to have around.
The guilt that arrives after a fair boundary, and the urge to repair a problem that may not exist.
Why a late reply, changed plan or misplaced object can carry far more than the moment seems to contain.